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When to get out

POSTED: September 06, 2009, 12:51 am

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Whether it is a job or a relationship, are you not sure when enough is enough? Here are some cues:

• Working and communicating seems much more difficult than it needs to be.
• You always feel out of sorts and not quite comfortable.
• You’ve come to realize that you are there out of obligation rather than a true desire.
• You feel worse every day and better when you leave.
• The environment is negative and zaps your positive energy.
• You find yourself to be unproductive.
• You seem to have very different values.
• You’ve already spoken to a lawyer.
• Your eyes are wandering and you are starting to wonder what it would be like elsewhere.
• The time spent does not seem worth it.
• The economy has got you scared to leave.
• You believe it will never change.
• You have determined that every wrong thing is a sign to run now and fast.

Sometimes in a relationship or at work we imagine an amazing environment. It can be heartbreaking and stressful to quickly find it is not at all that you imagined. Before you jump ship, see where your expectations might have been too high, where you might equally be at fault, clearly communicate your dissatisfaction, and consider that they may be equally unhappy with you.

It’s always best to secure a job first or build up some savings (Suze Orman says your emergency fund should equal 8 months of salary). If all else fails, get the heck out of there. Nothing will change if you truly believe this is not where you are suppose to be.

Sandra A. Daley is a life and career coach in NYC. If you have questions or comments about when to get out contact Sandra at or visit her at http;// If you liked this article, you may also enjoy “De-Clutter”

When to get outThere are two ways of meeting difficulties: you alter the difficulties or you alter yourself meeting them. /Phyllis Bottome

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